The Importance Of Stepping Up to Parental Obligtions

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Parenting is a like it or not responsibility that takes patience and consistency. Most of all parenting is a teaching process. Before a child enters school or any part of the outside world he only knows what he is taught at home. Providing nourishment, shelter, clothes, shoes and other necessities, are not the only things required as a parent. Every child needs some kind of direction and a solid foundation, every child needs instillment of principles, morals and values. Furthermore every child needs discipline, tough love and unconditional love.

You can say you love your child but it means more than just saying. Children and teens who doesn't receive guidance, love and affection from home often looks for it elsewhere. Fatherless boys are more eager to join street gangs and become a menace to society. They grow up following patterns of abuse led on by their fathers or their mother's male companions. Young girls become promiscuous and disrespectful towards themselves. Those who are lacking parental guidance sometimes end up behaving maliciously through frustration. Some fall behind in education and are easily influenced by peer pressure. Both boys and girls become parents as young as age 14. Children need emotional support as well as financial support from their parents.

Some parents concentrate on being their child's friend instead of a parent, which is what causes children to become more defiant and disrespectful towards them as well as act out in school and in public. Very seldom do parents take responsibility for their child's disruptive behavior. It's easier to put the blame on others like; celebrities, television, music played on the radio and roles shown through movies then to take responsibility themselves. Parents are the ones who have control over what they children watch on television, the music they listen to and the activities they do on the Internet. There should be limitations to what's acceptable and what's not. 

Educating our children is important. It goes beyond teaching them how to spell, do math and how to read. It is necessary to teach our children the expectations of life. Teach them how to gain self-reliance and prepare them for adulthood. Give them the basic street knowledge they need. Teach them right from wrong and mannerism. Teach them how to take care of themselves. It is imperative to often have talks about drugs and unsafe sex and to make them feel comfortable enough to talk about things that bother them. Also we have to teach them how to love themselves, be strong and how to be leaders instead of followers!

Written by Tamara M. Anderson October 19, 2012